MARRIAGES ON FAST TRACKS.

TIME......
T = FOR TODAY
I = FOR INSTANT
M= FOR MARRIAGE
E = FOR EXIT

These four words have taken away the joy, cheerfulness, celebration from today's marriages, which are becoming a 12 hour or maximum of 24 hour programme, or in other words arrangements....There are EVENT MANAGERS, ARRANGERS on people's gates to get a lumpsum amount for arranging everything from engagement to departure within the shortest time the bride, groom or their parents have in their hands...I mention this that even the small towns, cities are coming under this grip, where life was a joy...In cosmopolitans, time was there but marriage halls were available for few hours and the rest enjoyment they did in homes, hotels etc.

2. Main thing is that the bride and groom have no leave from their jobs or studies and they come on short notice and fly back to their destination with the ''TIED KNOT''. Honeymoon will be fixed later when they both get time....it is charmless physical intimacy, they are compelled to adopt.

3. Recession has also increased their problems of getting few days for the sacred ceremony, which looks like a time-pass for few hours. They are afraid of losing the job. Therefore, the engagement = 2 hours
marriage = 3 hours
reception = 3 hours = total 8 hours for an Indian sacred ceremony, which took nearly 3 days to complete with lots of guests, music, dancing, singing, lunch, dinners etc....This had come down to two days and now in one day i.e. 24 hours, including arrival and departure of parties from both sides....and the arrangement is left in the hands of Event Managers from rly bookings, reservations to band, pundits, hall, photo, video,mehendi, invitation cards, reception, taxis and till departure of every single guest....

4, WATCHES ARE THEIR NEW BOSSES AND THEIR EYES ARE ON NEEDLE OF THE SECONDS THEN MINUTES AND LATE COMES THE HOUR.......LORD FORBID FROM THE YEARS TO COME.......life is losing its LIVING charm-HOW TO LIVE WITH LIFE?...................gshroti@gmail.com

PARENTS--TAKE CARE OF CHILDREN

Job, service, home, society--where to establish the balance amontst the family of 3 or 4 or more....The sufferer is the child....he is demoralised, in friends (if he is an introvert) because of no backing support....he goes more within pself...this is the time he needs the support of parents or other elders if it is a joint family....If he is flabby or fatty, he may be teased outside and in home too. He feels hurt, if particularly not cared by the parents or even teased by them also....opposite there are children, who has the natural ability to defend themselves...

For example, Monica was teased by her friends and at home occasionally...But she had the hard skin, little caring for those words....and will eat as she likes, just in return to retaliate....She studied well and came always first...THIS IS THE EXAMPLE OF COOL MIND.....But here we are more concerned of the children in general, who are easy targets, for no fault of theirs....Here parents play an important role to boost the child's confidence in his tender age. They shd make their child feel secure and comfortable and having a positive self image.......to continue

COOKED FOOD IS BEST; FAST FOOD......??

In children, there are many complaints reg. catching diseases, growing fat, imbalanced thinking.....why?...They are made to eat FAST FOOD.There are easily available packets in shop....What the mother/father/couple will do?..THEY are coming from service in the evening, tired of whole day...wud they look into the kitchen immediately to cook food....hardly any chances; whereas the child/children are waiting to get stomach full, eating junk food during day, and in evening also they are served with more packets, till their mother recover to go to the kitchen.....

2. The day is like a machine....and human machine is tortured by this day machine for want of luxuries, showpieces, and necessities come in the last....therefore they are bound to serve the mechanised food in home. The result is the sufferings of children and getting the Doctors' purse fat....There is great queue in the evening at doctors' homes, clinics, hospitals, ----may be allopathy, ayurvedic, or homoeopathy....If they are not cured from one, they go to the other...This is a chain round the year, taking lot of their hard earned money for nothing, if they do care a little.

3. In fast food preservatives are used which change the natural ratio of sodium and potassium...The actual thing is that our body needs less of sodium and more of potassium, whereas consumption of fast food acts adversely by increasing the ratio of sodium in our body, which invites diseases...Another disadvantage or harmful factor in junk food is that in the processing in machines, the preversation of valuable fibre content is lost, which is one of the important factors in digestive process. Another harmful factor is the taste increasing elements which further disturb the digesting and provide stimulation harmful to the mind.

KEEP UP UR PERSONALITY

Body language keeps a great impact on ur personality--it affects as much as 50 per cent on ur getup....The gals repeat these mistakes, which lowers their body language:

Dress is the silent signal of ur personality....low cut skirt, heavy makeup, more perfume if used, indicate that u are not a sober girl.

When meeting new people, if u keep ur hands folded on ur chest shows that ur confidence level is low.

Sitting tight, and showing urself as of a shorter in body indicates that u hide ur actual personality.

When meeting some one and shaking hands with a cool look shows that u are weak somewhere.
HOWEVER ON THE OTHER HAND:

When outside, walking straight and talking to others in a friendly manner shows ur POSITIVE OUTLOOK.

When in office or talking to the influentials, the words ''hello, please, may I, excuse me'' will help u to be a well groomed personality.......

COLLEGE LIFE-GOING TO HOSTEL-FEW TIPS-2

CONTINUED FROM PREVIOUS POST:
HOME SICKNESS: Mentally, u have to make urself stronger...Try to control over ur emotions.This may be difficult, if u are an introvert: try to make friends as many as possible, and live as u lived with ur brothers and/or sisters. This will help divert ur attention and u wll less miss ur family at home.
RAGGING: There are anti-ragging committees in every college and also there are helpline numbers. As u enter hostel and settle, get to know the committee and help line numbers. Though there may be apprehensions, try to interact with seniors as cordially as u can....If in trouble with seniors, do not try to intermingle but get the help of ARC(anti-ragging committee).

ROOMMATES: It will help u if u take few days to understand the nature of ur roommate...it is reciprocal, because there may be misunderstanding sometimes, so solve it mutually and if necessary, u can initiate.

HOSTEL ATMOSPHERE: iN HOSTEL it is the responsibility of the Warden to maintain discipline and fulfill the needs of the hostelers....therefore, if she is strict, do not take otherwise...she has to answer the College Management Committee.....Follow the hostel rules, they are not so rigid, and u will get a smooth beginning and happy ending after completion of studies, may be one to three years or more if u go for PG.

COLLEGE LIFE-GOING TO HOSTEL-FEW TIPS

YOUNGSTERS who have passed higher secondary are taking admissions in colleges....naturally that is a different life, against what was uptillnow. They are preparing to go out of their town and as they are busy, so are the parents. They are more conscious about their children reg college life and necessarily, if it is out of town, THE HOSTEL LIFE..... as an adult they are leaving their home for the first time. Their parents are giving lots of suggestions for adjustment in college, hostel, in other town/city, how to take care of their belongings, mummy will not be there to get them up early and this they have to manage themselves. How to manage self discipline. If get ill, consult Doctors immediately. Study in time and be cordial with seniors and others whom they meet...Enjoy college life, but take care of timely breakfast, lunch, dinner etc. avoiding outside food/junkfood...Inform daily mom and dad on phone about their well being. Take part in college activities but not at the cost of studies....Keep money as safe as possible and no unnecessary expenditure.......BESIDES above instructions, what they have to carry with them:

ATM card, driving licence, I card, torch, needle, scissor, first-aid-box, umbrella, sleeper, mirror, nailcutter, combs, bedsheet, airpillow, alarm clock, night lamp, tumbler, plates, cups, electronic kettle, polish and shoe brush, tiffin, lock and key, pen, diary, quickfix, soap case, paper soap, hankies with dresses.......What they feel scaring of there: HOME SICKNESS, RAGGING, UNDERSTANDING WITH ROOM-MATE, NATURE OF WARDEN, HOSTEL ATMOSPHERE, SECURITY, THE FACILITIES AVAILABLE IN HOSTEL........to continue on these points.....

TAKE IT EASY

time in idleness can be overcome and for this first u understand yourself....You may be having lot of work, and other social pressures may be overwight or u took too much of food in ur plate and u get tired of eating and the work u want to do now, u have to postpone it for next to next hour and when that hour comes, u feel that u are more loaded with extra work and pressure...Then i feel u leave the idea of performing any of the work and again get idle with legs on the table and a hand on head....if this is happening with u generally, than u have to think sincerely and again think to take the task ''easy''...because by nature u are taking the work overloading urself..and for God's sake u will have to leave this habit....When u will take it easy, u will plan to do it one by one and by next day u will feel that how much u haved reduced your workload and that idleness, sitting in ur brain, has left u...and doing in the same process, till evening you are a complete man putting legs on table, but DIFFERENTLY.

ENTICING CONSUMERS BEFORE THEIR OPEN EYES.

IS it un- believeable that air india will reduce its fares by 70%..and it has done so recently and the whole air-industry was aghast, when its competitors have increased their fare by 8%.....Likewise the mobile companies have stopped charging collar ID....some of them even started giving a plan of Rs 249/-p.m. with 2000 SMS free....and it has become a trend.....The retailers want cash and the consumer shd reach to them anyhow, whether lowering the rates.

In wedding parties, the owner is giving free facility of ''honeymoon'' to the couples...for us this is a new concept...whether we may know that he will make money from somewhere or from the party itself...In US too, the hospitals are giving free ''delivery facility'', on the condition that the wud-be-mother has registered herself during the first month of conception, besides giving 2 months' free medical facility if the child is born in their hospital.

It is also known that the coaching class owners in Maharashtra offering free education to the brother and sister of the guy joining these classes.....It has become an old trend that if u buy one shirt or one pkt beans the other one in both cases will get extra each.....UNDER this guise, every shop-owner, mall-owner or other companies are tempting the consumers to empty their pockets
and increase their and companys' assets.....THIS IS A PSYCHOLOGICAL BLACKMAIL and we have covered our eyes with a linen cloth.

CONgratulations to AR REHMAN for getting the GOLDEN GLOBE AWARD FOR 'SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE'. AND HE is the first INDIAN to get this award. so INDIA is proud of it.

Next i read in a newspaper that Rehman is a HINDU named Dilip kumar.....and it is said that once his sister got seriously ill and the treatment was impossible....he prayed for her, went to Mazars.....but nothing happened. then somebody advised him to accept ISLAM , his sister will be cured....and he converted himself to Islam and it was a miracle that his sister started getting cured....there are somethings which are above science.....Dilip kumar turned Rehman......this was a great sacrifice....and by virtue of ALMIGHTY he had to be a proven music director.